Virtues of Character

 

Virtues of Character

Possessing positive character traits is essential in developing positive relationships with all people. Those who are able to demonstrate the essential virtues of character in their relationships with others have the best opportunity at being successful as people and happy in their relationships. Plato and Aristotl were of the conviction that ethics is fundamentally related to what kind of persons we are and here are the core values commonly used to define one's character.

Trustworthiness: Ethical people are worthy of trust and trustworthiness means being honest, having integrity, keeping your promises, and being loyal.

Respect: We must respect ourselves and remember that every person has the right to our respect.

Responsibility: We must be accountable for our own actions, practice self-restraint, and always do our best.

Justice and Fairness: Fairness is one of the most difficult values, because sometimes it means doing the right thing even if others don't agree. We must try to do what we know is fair and just.

Caring: Caring is concern for the interests of others.

Civic Virtue and Citizenship: Responsible citizenship means being involved in public service. This includes voting, reporting crimes, testifying as a witness, protecting the environment, and working for the candidate of our choice.

The virtues and vices that comprise one’s moral character are typically understood as dispositions to behave in certain ways in certain sorts of circumstances. For instance, an honest person is disposed to telling the truth when asked. These dispositions are typically understood as relatively stable and long-term. Further, they are also typically understood to be robust, that is, consistent across a wide-spectrum of conditions. We are unlikely, for example, to think that an individual who tells the truth to her friends but consistently lies to her parents and teachers possesses the virtue of honesty.

  

In the words of Jim Rohn "Character isn't something you were born with and can't change, like your fingerprints. It's something you weren't born with and must take responsibility for forming."

State of Euphoria

Laughter is a great thing and we've all heard the saying, "Laughter is the best medicine" so I believe

if you are too busy to laugh, then you are too busy.

 

 

 I came across this a while ago not only did it make me laugh but it stuck with me because it describes things in the exact way that I see them "When I was a kid in school, my teacher told me to write down what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down happy, she told me I didn't understand the assignment, l laughed and told her she didn't understand life." I wish I was that wise from an earlier age, but hey! atleast I got there because In my quest of finding my inner-winner I found that the only way to truly win is to be content and only then can you start the journey to true happiness.

As the years have gone by I came to the realization that the happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything and the best feeling in the world is realizing that you're perfectly happy without the things you thought you needed. There are countless indicators of what you should achieve/feel like once you have reached happiness and for me the most important has to be the one I find most contagious of them all; laughter. Laughter is the physiological respo­nse to humor and it consists of two parts, a set of gestures and the production of a sound. When we laugh, the brain pressures us to conduct both those activities simultaneously. Many researchers believe that the purpose of laughter is related to making and strengthening human connections. "Laughter occurs when people are comfortable with one another, when they feel open and free, therefore the more laughter there is, the more bonding occurs within the group." So if you bring more laughter into your life, you can most likely help others around you to laugh more, and realize these benefits as well. By elevating the mood of those around you, you can reduce their stress levels, and perhaps improve the quality of social interaction you experience with them, which in turn reduces your stress level even more!

Surround yourself with funny people

 Laughter is a great thing and we've all heard the saying, "Laughter is the best medicine", this is an experience that we should have at the center of our lives, that is why I believe that if you are too busy to laugh then you are too busy, slow down and enjoy a bit. Marrianne Williamson stated "As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same." Well I say "As we let our smiles burst into laughter, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same" Figure out what makes you laugh and do it/ read it/ watch it more often. Surround yourself with funny people, be with them every chance you get. Be funny every chance you get just as long as it's not at someone els'es expense!

Doormats

Doormats

They say being a nice person pays off in the long run. I don’t like being mean, it’s not who I am, plus I don’t do well with enemies. I can’t stand it when someone doesn't like me, especially if it is for no reason. If you don’t like me for no reason, I wanna know why. People are always like “haters are gonna hate”, I can’t stand that. 

I just wonder sometimes why the same people that you value dearly are the ones that desire to hurt you. Is there such a thing as being too nice? Am I a fool for not seeing that even those who are close to me have ulterior motives and bad intentions? I’m not someone’s doormat and I’m tired of being treated like one, I may be nice but there are limitations to how nice someone should be and I see that now. I feel like I try so hard to please everyone, so hard to make others happy, that my happiness is put second. I have always come second and I've always been proud of how selfless I am and I refuse to join the other side, maybe I should? But that would be a contradiction to my belief that nobody deserves to be treated in a rude manner by anyone. 

Sometimes I get so angry, I just want to hurt those who hurt me in the same way they hurt me. I just wanna screw them over so bad, that they can see what I go through. I want them to realize what I put up with and how I’m still here after all the heart ache, disappointment and struggle. But I find it very hard to  to do such a thing, I am just not cutthroat enough. I was brought up to treat others how you want to be treated, If I’m always there for you I expect you to be the same for me and the notion of being too nice has left me with two essential but nerve wrecking questions. Am I relevant to the people that are relevant to me? Do the people who I care for care for me?